Sex therapists dish on what their male clients say they want for better sex. Use these sex tips for women to have good—no, great—sex. A Harvard professor walks us through what really motivates men during sex. And, as it turns out, it's not really what the common thinking says it. Sex begins in the body. While women's desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men.
Sex begins in the body. While women's desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men. How many times have we heard the phrase, “All men want is sex?” When I was 17 years old I was sure it was true. When I was 37 years old. Sex therapists dish on what their male clients say they want for better sex. Use these sex tips for women to have good—no, great—sex.
How many times have we heard the phrase, “All men want is sex?” When I was 17 years old I was sure it was true. When I was 37 years old. Sex and relationship experts chime in with accurate insight about what men really want in bed, and how to please both your man and yourself. These sex moves will give you both the hottest sex of your lives. I know a lot of guys like reverse cowgirl and it's hot to see a girl's ass and.
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Okay, guess what--? Women's wants and needs have been on the back burner since the dawn of humankind. Too bad the men don't like it--they've got a few millennia left to go!!! It's our turn!! Women denigrate each other if it becomes known that a specific woman actually likes and wants sex. They will call her a slut and other derogatory terms to keep her in line and not put other women in a place they don't want to be with their men.
Women don't tell men what they like in an open and honest manner. They don't tell men when they want sex. They are more likely to refuse to have sex than to accept, and sex is the last priority of women. Everything else is more important no matter how mundane. Women too can feel desire and often as young women feel it in their bodies. I'm not excusing men - I'm celebrating them! No new info, but exquisitely expressed, Laurie, thanks!
For the choir men , that is. I can't imagine a single warm-blooded man that won't enjoy your writing, going "Yes! This is exactly how I feel!
But I guess you very well know that the level of confusion your writeup is causing some women readers is at the heart of much inter-gender dysfunction today. Dude we all relate to what she described not just men, that's the point hahahaha. You're not a special manly snowflake.
This is what sex drive feels like. In the woman's one they just described what not having a high sex drive is like. I showed it to my male roommate and we both agreed both articles are both of us. I am not going yes thats how i fell ya some guys who are outliers might do that but the decent ones will find it offensive.
Atleast me and my friends did. Laurie, you have only further confused me I don't believe I need to engage in any further discussion. You may not be like many women, and that's OK. But I can tell you, as a middle-aged man who's had a very high sex drive since my early teens, Laurie is exactly on target with her description of men like me. But I also realize that not all men are like me. I know some men who've told me about sex, "I can take it or leave it", which I find difficult to understand.
Wow I just had this similar discussion with my partner. Pretty spot on and nicely written Laurie. Interesting perspective on men from a practicing therapist and female point of view.
Reading the comments you have to be amazed as to the amount of discord out there in social media land. Good news I guess for the therapy profession This is how my father lived This article helps me understand why this was so gratifying and exciting to him, and how it is not really his fault as a man that he is like that.
It also confirms my decision not to build my life on another person with such volatile hormonal behavior, relying instead on dogs for companionship. I'm so sorry to hear of the abandonment by your father and his neglect of his children.
Often that kind of behavior is driven by a man's deep problems with attachment Obviously, it has led you to make avoid further vulnerability lest you be disappointed and hurt again. Again, "most men want and feel a much more emotional connection than a simple bodily release. There is nothing in the article that suggests it would result in men generally behaving as your father did. That's just your interpretation. For other men, sex bonds them to the woman they're with, and many of the points in the article suggest that.
Yes, Maria, that is what I have come to feel like too. I used to struggle with a lot of bitterness toward men because of that behavior, but now I understand that we don't hate a wolf for killing a rabbit; it's just what they do.
It's their nature. That helped me toward understanding and not feeling so angry or hurt anymore. You're a smart gal. Dogs are awesome. Every year, every child, every injury or scar makes her less attractive until he is no longer aroused by her sight; for many men, even just habituation will lead to that loss of desire. And with that disappearance of desire, so disappears any warm concern or care for the former sex object.
As a woman, therefore, you look into the mirror twenty times a day, looking in despair at every sign that you're "letting yourself go" and the end is nearing, wondering whether he will come home one more time for THIS, or whether today is the day you are losing your family, your children, your home, your pets, your friends, your retirement, your prized belongings Is today the day it's all over, or how far into the future is that day?
Next week? Next month? Next year? Or has it already happened and you just don't know it, and he is now coveting a different body and developing "feelings" for its owner? There is a total absence of human connection or ethical concern in that relationship set-up, and your description brought that into wonderfully sharp relief. Being the short-term recipient of his desire and beneficiary of the attendant bonding hormone release is just not worth the anguish, despair, and destruction that inevitably accompanies such fragile arrangements.
Thing is that in their prime women have a much easier time attracting dates and companionship than men. Most men have to struggle or have no success at all and most women only have to snap their fingers. Ofcourse this has to do with youth as youth indicates feritility. Men being attracted to older women has no evolutionary benefit.
That is the whole point of sexual desire in the first place. Nothing lasts forever so as a woman there will come a time you can no longer depend on your looks but for most men it has always been this way. I don't think that necessarily means men will leave their partner if the relationship is good and he genuinely loves her.
There are many older couples. So obviously there is much more than physical desire. Then again desire decreases as well when people age. For women maybe more than men but still.. It's not like most older men can attract younger women either. In the end our behavior is indeed dictated by hormones as this is what drives the survival of our species. As time goes by so do the influence of our hormones. I mean, men with fading testosterone and post-menopausal women even start to look alike. No point getting bitter about this.
People are in their prime, procreate or not , then get old. Not much you can do but cherish the memories as nothing lasts forever. Yes, this can certainly happen.
And it does often happen. If the couple cannot bond in other ways, then when the tide of hormones ebb, which they inevitably will - they may very well be left with nothing between them. If all she was was an outlet for his sexual energy, then in the end - there will be emptiness. I think most men probably do love their wives to a degree - however, the maturity that is needed to grow together can be quite difficult.
Elongated lifespans, a variety of distractions available in modern life, more choices than ever before and for many, a measure of economic stability all come together to change the landscape, and expectation, of those long term marriages. With decades remaining after the kids have flown the coop - oftentimes questions arise about the need to stay together, for what purpose - especially when sexual desire has declined and if sexual bonding was one of the more important factors in remaining together.
This is also a challenge for older, widowed or divorced people getting a new love - what bonds them if sexual tension does not?
Something else has to take it's place. If the couple cannot bond in other ways,. You're writing as if sex is the only thing that bonds people in a marriage.
Again, sounds like you're just modeling a relationship on the stereotypical "college hookup" or "friends with benefits" arrangement. I think people feel love and bonding in primary ways Men often do feel sex as enormously bonding much because of their testosterone levels which are often a hundred fold that of their female partner.
I think there needs to be respect for that need as there should be equal respect for a woman who might need time together or acts of service chores, guys! We have to give the love that our partner is most receptive to and vice versa. Yes, sometimes the urgency fades for both people and sex takes on new meaning as we deeply search to understand the other's erotic mind. And I think that most women love only the feeling of being loved by a man.
There is no genuine affection toward the man himself, only the provision he brings. Provision of positive feelings. Provision of entertainment. Provision of security. Provision of resources. How many women realize that they have "grown apart" from their husbands shortly after he is injured or becomes ill or loses his job?
Women demand that their husbands "Love me for who I am! You're telling us a lot about yourself. Because we all know women are people too, capable of all the same feelings.
It's so sad and unfortunate that you feel that way, but it's not always true. The problem is that when we do share our love it comes from a place of nurturing, which some can be viewed as "mothering" if she is a bossy type. Narcissistic woman and narcissistic men have enormous trouble reciprocating and forming deep attachments bonds and perhaps run out when the beauty or money runs out.
This has been my problem since I started having sex as a teenager. The sex in my relationships would be great 2 to 4 times at the beginning. As the relationship gets more serious my desire starts to disappear, no matter how attracted I am to the woman.
Eventually after a few weeks some serious sexual dysfunctions start setting in- the inability to get an erection or ejaculate by any means with the partner. Needless to say I have never been able to maintain a long term relationships. This has been going on for 3 decades and half a dozen Sex Therapists I have been to over the years-d were unable to help and the sexual loneliness can be severe sometimes.
How a woman acts with her man can overcome that self-doubt. Her enthusiasm and willingness to please him is more important to him than how you look in most cases.
But if he is the reason your looks are that important to you both, what that tells this man is that you picked the wrong guy. That alpha stud you lusted after and won wasn't such a catch after all, was he? Women can have three orgasms to a mans one but they have nothing ever because society says orgasms are for men only and women need to put out and shut up.
Articles like this keep up the make believe hierarchy where men are more important than women. Men are prejudice against women and women are submissive to it. She's close. Whether it's by their own hand, their lover's stimulation, a vibrator - most women need a bit more.
But many do experience orgasm in the presence of their male lover if we define sex as lovemaking not just penis in vagina. There is nothing in popular culture more celebrated that the female orgasm, except maybe for childbirth.
Male orgasm is generally considered a punchline. Something that signifies disappointment and unfulfilled desire. Sad trombone. Or something to be thrown into a cherry pie cooling on the countertop. I'll agree the treatment with regard to men's and women's orgasms are uneven, especially in a particular forum.
But if you look across the wider spectrum of discussion and practice, it's not one-sided. Yes, female orgasm is more celebrated and encouraged on magazine covers at the checkout counter, but they're also dismissed in other contexts. In fact, true story from a friend, a woman had the courage to ask her male doctor about her difficulty in having orgasms, and his embarrassed reply was simply to stutter "We don't worry about that -- you're in excellent health and that's what's important".
But a man with ED -- that would get a serious answer, if not a specific exam, recommendations, and a pill covered by insurance. Not to mention that we have a president who was once asked on the Howard Stern show, did all the women he slept with have orgasms?
His dismissive reply perhaps to get a laugh was, "I couldn't care less". The article is insanely wrong. I don't pay much attention to psychologists , because they tend to promote their own subjective thinking, hang ups and promote societal myths about women. I have to disagree, based on 51 years of living, observation, and the unfortunate truth of being married. YOUNG women seem to like sex, assuming there are goodies attached or the guy is "Joe Studly" who she has to know is not going to stick around.
I say HAS to know, because it's basic, obvious, and assuming otherwise would imply that women lack the mental horsepower to be human. Which I don't believe. After a few years of those games, it's "time to settle down" and women look for a husband. Unfortunately, what a woman wants in a husband seems to be someone stable, boring, financially astute, and someone they hold their nose and occasionally feign interest in sex with.
Purely transactional. Unfortunately, those guys are NOT alpha males. They fall for it. I did. I actually love my wife. I'm not at all certain the reverse is true.
I frequently feel that she "settled" because I'm a hard worker, but she either faked the sexual attraction at the beginning, or totally lost it over time. I have seen the same thing with almost every marriage I've observed. In the long run, I'm not sure humans were meant to be monogamous, and modern culture certainly doesn't make it tenable. One can talk about vulnerable things, but the way guys do it still typically gives them the sense of being in control. It is exceedingly rare for a man to tell a friend about his sexual failures in any kind of detail.
The value of the book is that they get a peak behind the closed doors. They get to uncover what guys really say and experience in the bedroom and in their heads. I think men and women can have a lot of trouble understanding each other. If they have, then they feel good. A lot of guys take their cues from women. I treated a man who became a paraplegic after a diving accident. Nothing worked from the waist down. He was married.
His wife was neurologically normal. One of the alternative treatments we have for people is a medicine you can inject into the side of your penis. Within a few minutes, the medicine tells the blood vessels to create an erection. He came to see me a few weeks later and he was just thrilled. He told me he felt like a man again. Now remember, because of his injury he has no sensation below the waist.
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